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Wilmer Mclean: from Bull Run to Appomattox – a Story of War, Surrender, and Loss

Wilmer McLean (May 3, 1814 – June 5, 1882)

Portrait of Wilmer McLean. Image sourced from the Public Domain.


The life and homes of Wilmer McLean are deeply intertwined with the American Civil War’s pivotal moments. From the first shots at Yorkshire to the final surrender at Appomattox Courthouse, McLean’s residences bore witness to the war’s profound impact on the nation.

The McLean Legacy: Foundations in Alexandria

Wilmer McLean was born to Daniel McLean, who played a pivotal role in establishing St. Paul’s Church Episcopal Church in Alexandria, Virginia. The McLean family’s resting place in St. Paul’s Cemetery is a testament to their enduring legacy in the region.

A Union of Families: The McLean-Mason Marriage

In 1853, Wilmer McLean united in matrimony with Virginia Hooe Mason, a widow previously married to John Seddon Mason. The expansive 1200-acre Yorkshire farm near Bull Run in Prince William County came with Virginia’s dowry. This farm set the stage for numerous significant events as the couple raised their blended family.

Yorkshire: Ground Zero of Battle

The First Battle of Bull Run (or First Battle of Manassas) on July 18, 1861, saw Union cannons targeting Yorkshire, then the headquarters for Confederate General Pierre G. T. Beauregard. The cookhouse, serving as a signal station, suffered a direct hit.

Days later, on July 21, the armies clashed again near Manassas. Post-battle, Yorkshire transitioned into a makeshift hospital and prison for captured Union soldiers and spectators, including Congressman Alfred Ely of New York.

Seeking Refuge and Financial Stability

The continuous warfare and destruction at Yorkshire compelled the McLean family to seek sanctuary elsewhere. They chose the village of Appomattox Courthouse, approximately 120 miles away, hoping for peace until the war’s end.

The Surrender: McLean’s Living Room’s Historic Role

On April 9, 1865, Colonel Charles Marshall, an aide to General Robert E. Lee, approached McLean in search of an appropriate location for General Lee to surrender to Union General Ulysses S. Grant. Reluctantly, McLean provided his parlor, which then became the setting for this momentous event, signaling the end of the American Civil War.

The McLean house at Appomattox Courthouse. The photo was taken by O’Sullivan, Timothy H., 1840-1882 photographer, from the Library of Congress.

The McLean House: From Civil War Relic to National Monument

After the surrender, Union soldiers and officers took various personal items from McLean’s home, including Lucretia (Lulu), Virginia McLean’s cherished doll. Notably, General Edward Ord claimed the marble table used by Lee, intending it for Julia Grant. She declined, and the table reached the Chicago History Museum. General Lee’s armchair, initially taken by Colonel Edward W. Whitaker, now sits in the National Museum of American History.

The house’s post-war journey is equally intriguing. McLean foreclosed on it in 1867, changing ownership multiple times until Captain Myron Dunlap bought it in 1891. He aimed to display the house at the 1893 Chicago World’s Fair, but financial setbacks led to its dismantling for a proposed D.C. museum. This plan fell through, leaving the house in ruins for years. The National Park Service undertook its restoration in the 1940s, and the restored house was inaugurated in 1950 attended by figures like historian Douglas Southall Freeman, General Ulysses S. Grant III, and Robert E. Lee IV.

Life After the War: McLean’s Return to Alexandria.

Financial hardships soon followed the war, prompting McLean and his family to move to Manassas in 1867. Eventually, they returned to Alexandria. Through his connection with Confederate raider John Mosby, McLean secured a position as a tax collector for the Port of Alexandria, serving from 1876 to 1880.

McLean’s Legacy: A Unique Perspective on the Civil War

After the war, McLean often remarked, “The American Civil War began in my front yard and ended in my parlor.” This statement encapsulates his unique position in the war’s history. McLean passed away on July 5, 1882, leaving a rich legacy. His wife, Virginia, outlived him by 11 years and rests beside him.


Wilmer McLean’s life, homes, and belongings offer a unique lens through which we can view the American Civil War’s significant events. His story is a poignant reminder of the war’s personal and national impacts.

Gravestone of Wilmer McLean at St. Paul’s Cemetery within the Wilkes Street Cemetery Complex, Alexandria, Virginia. Photographed by D. Heiby.
Son of
Daniel & Lucretia McLean
Died June 5, 1882
In the 68th year of
his age
LOT 268

Sources of Information

Johns, C. (2001). Wilmer McLean (1814 – 1882) Victim or Scrooge? The Alexandria Chronicle, IX(2). Alexandria Historical Society, Inc.

Hakenson, D. C. (2011). This Forgotten Land Volume II, Biographical Sketches of Confederate Veterans Buried in Alexandria, Virginia. Alexandria, Virginia: Donald Hakenson.

Pippenger, W. E. (2014). Tombstone Inscriptions of Alexandria, Virginia (Vol 5). Heritage Books: Berwyn Heights, MD.

National Park Service. (2022). Appomattox Court House National Historical Park.

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By David

Hello. My journey has taken me through various paths, from owning businesses to delving deep into the annals of history. For many years, I dedicated myself to researching and leading tours of Civil War Battlefields, bringing the past to life for those eager to learn.

In 2015, I assumed the role of Superintendent of the Presbyterian Cemetery and Columbarium within the Wilkes Street Cemetery Complex in Alexandria, Virginia. This cemetery holds a profoundly special place in my heart. It's owned by the Old Presbyterian Meeting House, where I was baptized and raised, and my parents are laid to rest. It's also the place where I will one day be buried. This responsibility allowed me to assist families during pivotal moments and opened a unique avenue for me. Most Saturdays, I lead tours within the complex, combining my passion for teaching history with the stories of the 35,000 souls resting there. To further share these narratives, I established this blog focusing on the lives and tales of those buried in Alexandria.

In addition to my work at the Wilkes Street Cemetery Complex, I am honored to serve as a dedicated Board member of the Alexandria Historical Society and the Lee-Fendall House Museum. I am a Northern Virginia Cemetery Consortium member dedicated to preserving endangered cemeteries throughout the region, representing the Wilkes Street Cemetery Complex.

If you're intrigued by history or curious about the stories that shaped Alexandria, I invite you to join me on my tours, read my writings, or connect with me on Facebook or Instagram.

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